We need good association. Then, affection will grow. Otherwise, the fitness will not come for us to progress in the higher plane. First, a relationship will come through association, and when a relationship is formed, affection may come. It is first necessary to have a relationship with Guru and Vaisnava, the devotee of God. Otherwise, affection cannot be ours.
Here, we must know that regard for Guru and Vaisnava is necessary before affection. Then progress will come to us.
adau sraddha tatah sadhu-sango ’tha bhajana-kriya
tato ’nartha-nivrttih syat tato nistha ruchis tatah
Affection comes to us through nistha, then ruchi. Divine relationship is always closely connected with sadhu-sanga, association with the saint or pure devotee of God, but before that sraddha or faith is necessary. If faith is firm, then we can try to have a relationship with a sadhu, and through the association of the sadhu, learning to serve with devotion, and becoming purified of evils, a higher plane of affection may come to us. But it is first necessary to go through three or four stages before affection. Still, it may come to some immediately: affection is within everyone, and it can grow without any cause. Even in this mundane world, we can sometimes see that fr om the very first day of meeting, some people are very good friends. As soon as they see each other, affection comes immediately. Similarly, it is also possible in spiritual dealings, but before that some sukrti